In this guide, we will go in depth about how to hook up with girls in nightclubs and how to get the best out of your crazy nights out. We will talk about a couple of proven techniques and give a lot of tips in order to make your life as easy as possible. However, keep in mind that people are different in many ways, and what may work with a big group may turn out to backfire when approaching another person.
This is just a brief overlook of the things that you should take into consideration. We will also have a couple of do's and don't do's in order to help you get a good grasp on how those things work. Keep in mind that despite the fact how they are portrayed on the TV and in movies, clubs are not the places where people can always find a perfect date without doing anything. Also, you don't need any spooky tactics in order to be successful.
If you are kind, gentle, being yourself and having fun you can actually pretend to have fun if you are boring, but you find that the girls are attractive, just fake it until you make it. Before we get into the theory of attraction and approach, we have to discuss a couple of things that are obviously necessary for your success.
And, of course, the one is your looks. And, no, you don't want to show up with a messed-up hair and wearing basketball shorts, unless you are Brad Pitt or somebody like that, because those are not the things that you wear on your night out, especially if you are looking to hook up with female company.
You always want to look good, confident and stressed-out, and you want to enjoy yourself the whole time. Nothing is worse than a boring guy standing there and looking like he is desperate for a girl to approach him. Put up some nice clothes that make you feel comfortable, and don't dress too much because the temperature in the clubs is usually way higher than your room temperature, due to a large of people in there.
You want to have a layer or two of clothes on yourself so that you can take something off in case it gets hot in there, and trust us, it will get hot if you are doing everything correctly. So, if you want a classy look, a dark single-colored shirt is always a good thing to have. Just make sure that it has long sleeves, as you are not going bowling. If you want the bad-boy looks with this, make sure not to fold the collar perfectly. Instead, leave one side up. Also, you can unbutton the sleeves or fold them up if you feel like it.
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If you are going to the place which has a very fancy dress code, you might want to throw a tie as well. Find a nice slim tie, single-colored, and make it look like a contrast to the basic color of your shirt. Blue, red, purple or anything like that will be good.
You can also put one of those sweaters or under-jacket sleeveless tops over the shirt. This is especially good if you are having a little bit of overweight or a hanging belly since it will tighten you up and make your chest look good and in shape. If it is a summertime or a more casual party, you can put on a long-sleeve shirt, or a t-shirt. Make sure that it is not overdone with prints and details.
You are a grown mannot a teenager, hopefully. We will leave the pants to your own choice. Nice jeans are always a good combination with almost anything if you don't like the tuxedo pants. On your feet, you want nice boots or casual sneakers whose color matches the rest of your outfit. And please, no training or running sneakers for this occasion.
Remember, less is more. Keep it simpleminimalclassy and not too colorful, no matter what are you wearing, as you want the girls to be looking at your face, not your dumb childish clothes. Now that you figured out your outfit, it is time to move on to the next, but equally important thing. This is probably something that should not be mentioned at all, but it is a very important step, and we will talk about it as well.
As you most likely figured out by now, the key to being successful with women is to leave the best first impression that you possibly can. Everything is within the first minutes of your encounter, as she will most likely determine during those couple of minutes if she wants to move forward with you, or friend-zone you and keep you as an option.
And you don't want this. Instead, what you want to make sure is that you shower before you go out. Wash your hair as well.
If you have a short haircut, you can style it a bit using the hair gel. Spray some nice cologne around your neck, but not too much. The scent is the most powerful human sense when it comes to male-female attraction. You don't want to overwhelm her with your perfume.
Instead, you want her to smell a little bit of it, but not too much. If she likes it, she will definitely stand closer to you to feel that awesome-smelling thing on your neck! Now, this is something that you should really think of. Try and pick a place that is very likely to have a lot of single women hanging in there.
Try to avoid local pubs and neighborhood bars. As fun as they might be, they are most likely not the place where you will find single women. If you are unfamiliar with the area, try to search online for reviews of local places. Also, try to avoid overcrowded dance-clubs where the music is too loud to have a conversation.
You can also ask your friends to suggest you with a list of places where you can find single girls to hook up with. And another important thing to keep in mind as well: you actually want to bring some of your friends with you. You definitely don't want to be the guy that we mentioned above. Yes, that one who is standing by himself and craving attention. Get your mates to come with you, have fun, talk with each other, dance and enjoy the night.
It is much easier this way since the single girls are going in groups most of the time as well. Now that the music is playing, everything is nice and smooth and it is time to take things to the next level.
Try to avoid getting too drunk in the meantime, as this is not attractive and you will regret it the next morning. The goal here is to determine which girls are already busy, in a relationship or engaged, or those who are already on a date with another guy.
This will most likely be the hardest part, as it requires some experience in the field. Try not to overthink it, and be spontaneous. If a certain girl is dressed in a very flashy way, this often means that she has high expectations for the night and a high expectation for you.
She is expecting to get a lot of attention, a lot of guys flirting with her, but only the best one will get her attention. You can start by chatting with the girls while waiting in the line to get your drinks. If you are already doing that, look for nice and quiet spots where you can actually have a pick. Say how to the girl who is sitting at the bar by herself, or the girl who is at the edge of the dancefloor. If you are with your friends, and the mood is right, you can introduce her to the company.
Most women like this, because they like the attention. If she accepts to come over and say hi to your company, offer her a drink. And also ask her if she is by herself or she has some friends with her. If that is the case, feel free to ask her and her company to your guys at the table. Buy them a drink, and let the games begin! This is actually the best case scenarioa group of single girls sitting next to the group of you and your friends. Also, remember that they don't owe you anything. Buying her or them a drink is a way of getting them to notice your presence.
This is not an woman for over-imposing and aggressive behavior. Relax, be confident, and start by smiling and gently introducing yourself. It is so simple and effective. You actually don't need any fancy pickup lines. Chances are, she has already heard it and doesn't find it so funny as you may be. Encourage her to introduce herself. Ask her why is she in that club, what kind of music she likes etc. You want to be yourself here, and just improvise. You are not essentially asking her to sleep with you.
You are just breaking the ice instead. So, keep the conversation light and casual.